“…when a person has no one around her accepting who she is, it’s even more important that she can turn on the television and see that, at the very least, someone out there in the world will accept and love her no matter what.” -German Lopez
“I wouldn’t come out for a few years. But when I did, I can genuinely thank a show like Will and Grace for making it easier. It became less about waiting until my parents were ready and more about waiting until I was ready.” -German Lopez
Books and TV have always been a big part of my life. I was a latchkey kid from the time I was pretty young. TV was my after-school and Friday night companion, and the shows that I chose to watch helped shape my values and worldview.
So it’s kind of neat to realize that, as I grew older, shows like Ellen, Will and Grace, Queer as Folk, and The L Word–as well as so many queer books that I couldn’t even begin to name them all–significantly changed my life. They allowed me to feel more comfortable with showing the people around me who I really was, and I will forever be grateful for that.
“…each and every one of us is responsible for contributing to the character of our nation. And, unfortunately, racism, homophobia, misogyny, religious intolerance, and so many other forms of bigotry continue to disfigure its character. If this is ever going to change, it will only happen because we refuse to put up with it any longer.
…we who place human dignity at the pinnacle of morality must never remain silent when confronted by prejudice, intolerance, and hatred. Let our refusal to do so stand as our tribute to the lives that were taken today.”
We must never forget what those early days of AIDS were like. How the world lost so many beautiful, wonderful people, and how so many of them died alone, afraid, and unloved because of fear and ignorance and hatred.
People like Ruth Coker Burks did what was heartbreakingly all too often needed.
This beautiful video is a short film that was created in support of Australian Marriage Equality. It brought tears to my eyes when I first saw it. My hon and I were married this past summer, and this video says it all. My hope is that one day very soon everyone in the world who has found this kind of love will be free to marry, will be free to love peacefully and openly without fear of hatred or violence or discrimination.
If you can’t see the embedded video above, you can view it on YouTube.
Following the wonderful Supreme Court decision allowing same-sex marriage across the United States, my partner and I were legally married in our home state. It was a long-awaited, lovely day, and I want to take a moment to say THANK YOU to all of you out there who get what it truly means. Your support and understanding mean more than I can say.
Because it’s not just about being able to state that “We’re married.” It’s about survivor benefits, next-of-kin status, legal status to your spouse’s children, access to medical coverage and disability, ability to take family leave to care for an ill spouse, inheriting your spouse’s estate, and the list goes on and on and on. Over 1100 rights and privileges granted to married couples in the US.
No more living in fear because you are merely roommates with the love of your life. Now that person is legally “your person.” No one can deny you access and information. You can be with your sick partner (or even claim their body if they’ve passed). You can make decisions as their spouse. You can more easily share finances and health coverage. You can be a family in the eyes of the government.
Thank you to all of the supporters of LGBT rights, to the Supreme Court justices who voted in our favor, and to Jim Obergefell, my fellow Ohioan. You fought for all of us and changed our lives. Thank you!